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Results indicated improvement in the mother—child relationship while in high school; however, improvement in all indices slowed or stopped after exit. Mothers of youth with ASD without an intellectual disability ID and who had more unmet service needs evidenced the least improvement after exit.
Our findings provide further evidence that the years after high school exit are a time of increased risk, especially for those with ASD without ID and whose families are under-resourced. Autism spectrum disorder, Transition to adulthood, Mother—child relationship, Burden, Warmth Introduction The transition out of high school and into adult life for individuals with an autism spectrum disorder ASD is a time of substantial change. At high school exit he or she loses the entitlement to many and sometimes all of the services received while in the school system.
In most cases, he or she enters a world of adult services plagued by waiting lists and a dearth of appropriate opportunities to achieve a maximum level of adult independence Howlin et al. After exiting high school, parents particularly mothers continue in their role as the main source of support and care for adults with ASD, and often must take on increased responsibility for service coordination from the school system.
This role does not end when the son or daughter moves away from the parental home Krauss et al. The present study extends our previous research examining the impact of high school exit on the autism behavioral phenotype Taylor and Seltzer a by focusing on the ways in which this transition may also alter aspects of the mother—child relationship.
Furthermore, we tested whether the impact of high school exit depended on four factors that have been found to be either important correlates of the mother—child relationship or moderators of the impact of high school exit on the autism behavioral phenotype: Currently, there is no empirical evidence regarding the extent and nature of the changes that occur in the mother—child relationship from before to after this transition for families of youth with ASD. Identifying characteristics of mothers and families who adapt well during the transition years will provide important knowledge that can be used to develop interventions and inform services and policy.
The Mother—Child Relationship During the Transition to Adulthood For typically developing adolescents, the transition to adulthood involves leaving the parental home and living independently, finishing school, starting a job, and marrying and having children Fussell and Furstenberg Only one of these tasks—finishing school—is accomplished by most individuals with ASD; thus, we chose high school exit as a key indicator of the transition to adulthood.
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The transition to adulthood is a time of great stress for families of youth with ASD. Mothers report a tremendous amount of anxiety and trepidation prior to their son or daughter's high school exit Fong et al.
Mothers of non-disabled adolescents often find the transition to adulthood to be difficult Kidwell et al. The situation becomes potentially more serious when considering that all of this change is occurring among families that tend to experience more stress throughout the life course than families of children with any other developmental disorder Abbeduto et al. Not only are high levels of burden and stress among mothers reasons for clinical concern in and of themselves, but also because they are related to more critical and less warm mother—child relationships among families of individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities Hastings et al.
Thus, if the transition to adulthood is a time of great worry and stress among mothers of children with ASD, the mother—child relationship may become less positive during the transition years. Poor mother—child relationships place youth with ASD at risk for higher levels of maladaptive behaviors Greenberg et al.
Our recent research generally suggests that the mother—child relationship may be at risk during the transition to adulthood due to behavioral and symptom changes in the son or daughter with ASD co-occurring with this transition. Using longitudinal data collected over a year period from a larger ongoing longitudinal study of mothers of adolescents and adults with ASD for a description of the larger study see Seltzer et al.
We found that the improvement in the autism behavioral phenotype i. Because of the strong relations shown in past research between maladaptive behaviors and autism symptoms in youth with intellectual and developmental disabilities including ASD and the quality of the mother—child relationship Beck et al.
However, we have also found patterns of improvement in the mother—child relationship over time. However, this analysis did not examine change in the mother—child relationship from before and to after high school exit, and it is difficult to know whether the greater positive change for mothers of youth who had recently exited is due to cohort effects or true intra-individual change.
Regardless of possible explanations, more research is needed that directly examines the impact of high school exit on indices of the mother—child relationship. The present study examines the impact of high school exit by estimating the rate of change in mother—child positive affect, subjective burden, and maternal warmth over a seven-year period, and further whether the rate of those changes differs after high school exit.
Correlates of Changes in the Mother—Child Relationship After High School Exit Individuals with ASD and their families are a heterogeneous group, and the ways that they experience the exit of the son or daughter out of the school system and into adult life will differ by characteristics of the family. To investigate this heterogeneity, the present study examined four possible correlates of change suggested by the extant research: There is some research to suggest that individuals with ASD without comorbid ID might be at risk for problems in the mother—child relationship during the transition to adulthood.
In our studies Taylor and Seltzer abyouth with ASD without ID had more pronounced slowing in behavioral phenotypic improvement after high school exit, and were more likely to have insufficient or no daytime activities during the years after exit relative to youth with ASD and comorbid ID.
Furthermore, Dossetor et al. It is a well-established finding that caregivers who attribute a family member's problematic behaviors as controllable by that individual have higher levels of criticism and lower levels of warmth, relative to caregivers who attribute the behaviors to uncontrollable causes Barrowclough and Hooley ; Tarrier et al.
Although studies have yet to examine the role of individual functioning on maternal attributions about behavior in an ASD sample, it is reasonable to expect that mothers of youth with ASD without ID who have higher levels of functioning on average may be more likely to attribute their son or daughter's maladaptive behaviors as under his or her own control compared to mothers of youth with ASD with ID who have lower levels of functioning.
The stress of less phenotypic improvement and inadequate adult employment after exit, coupled with a greater likelihood that their mother will make attributions of internal control about maladaptive behaviors, suggests that youth with ASD who do not have ID may be at risk for poorer mother—child relationships during the transition years relative to those with ID. Relations between the gender of the son or daughter with ASD and indices of the mother—child relationship vary across studies.
Among typically developing parent— child dyads, mothers and their young adult daughters tend to be closer than mothers and their similarly-aged sons Rossi and Rossi ; Ryff and Seltzer Alternatively, research on the mother—child relationship with mothers of sons or daughters with intellectual and developmental disabilities including ASD tend not to find differences based on the gender of the individual with the disability Beck et al.
One exception to this pattern is the study by Lounds et al. Because the Lounds et al. Family socio-economic resources may influence how aspects of the mother—child relationship change during the transition out of high school.
Although socio-economic status is understudied in ASD populations, there is some research that suggests that families who have greater socio-economic resources are able to obtain an ASD diagnosis earlier Mandell et al. Furthermore, Taylor and Seltzer a found that autism symptoms ceased to improve after high school exit for youth with ASD from lower income families, while improvement continued for those from higher income families.
In that study, income impacted change in autism symptoms only after high school exit, but not while youth with ASD were in high school. This pattern may reflect income-based disparities in services that intensify after youth with ASD leave high school and enter the adult service system.
It is likely that these disparities and less phenotypic improvement for youth with ASD from lower income families result in greater parental stress for these families after exit, reflected in more problems in the parent—child relationship after high school exit relative to families with higher incomes. Finally, the number of services that the son or daughter with ASD needs but is not receiving unmet service needs while in the secondary school system may impact how the mother—child relationship changes after exit.
Smith found that more unmet disability service needs were related to higher levels of subjective burden among mothers of adults with ID.
Youth with ASD are likely to receive more services and have fewer unmet needs while in school and covered under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, relative to after high school exit when they lose entitlement to services.
Those who already have high levels of unmet service needs while in school may be at particular risk after they leave the protective umbrella of the school system, with more burden falling on the mothers. Thus, we expect that mothers of youth with ASD who have high levels of unmet service needs while in the secondary school system will experience less positive change in the mother—child relationship after high school exit.
The Present Study The present study is a follow-up to our research on the impact of high school exit on changes in the behavioral phenotype of adolescents and young adults with ASD Taylor and Seltzer a. As the first empirical study focused on changes in the functioning of families who have a son or daughter with ASD from before high school exit to after, this research will help us to understand the characteristics of families that are able to more successfully negotiate this transition, which may have implications for intervention.
Therefore, our first aim was to determine whether exiting the secondary school system was associated with changes in aspects of the mother—child relationship for adolescents and young adults with ASD. Based on our previous research finding that improvements in the autism behavioral phenotype slow significantly after high school exit Taylor and Seltzer awe hypothesized that the transition out of high school would similarly be followed by negative changes in the mother—child relationship, as measured by positive affect in the mother—child relationship, subjective burden, and maternal warmth.
Our second aim was to examine whether changes in aspects of the mother—child relationship, both prior to high school exit and after exit, depended on the ID status or gender of the adolescents and young adults with ASD, family income, or unmet service needs. We expected less improvement in the mother—child relationship for mothers of males, mothers of those without ID who had more unmet service needs, as well as mothers with lower family incomes.
Nearly all of the sample members Case-by-case review of the other sample members 5. We used identical recruitment and data-collection methods at both sites.
Families received information about the study through service agencies, schools, and clinics; those who were interested contacted a study coordinator and were subsequently enrolled. Five waves of data have thus far been collected and are available for analysis: At each time point, data were collected from the primary caregiver, who was usually the mother, via in-home interviews that typically lasted 2—3 h and via self-administered questionnaires.
The present analyses make use of four waves of data referred to as Time 2 through Time 5which are the time points when all of the mother—child relationship variables of interest were collected.
We included families whose son or daughter with ASD was in the secondary school system at Time 2 and who exited high school between any of these four data points or who remained in high school at the last point of data collection.
By focusing on this sample, it was possible to examine change in the mother—child relationship during the transition to adulthood, an understudied period in the lives of individuals with ASD and their families. Of a possible sample members who met the above inclusion criterion, there were 8 who were dropped from the present analysis.
In 6 cases, the father was the respondent instead of the mother. For one remaining family, the mother completed separate interviews for three children with ASD; we randomly chose one child as the target child, resulting in the elimination of two cases. Examining the Unique Roles of the Mother and the Father Research on parenting focuses predominantly on the primary caregiver, typically the mother.
For example, mothers spend more time in routine caregiving activities with their children Parke, and are most often the primary source of physical comfort and safety for the child e. In addition, men more than women, often encourage children to take risks, while at the same time ensure their safety and provide an environment where children learn to navigate through unfamiliar situations and to stand up for themselves Paquette, Parenting and gender of the child The quality of the father-child relationship may be especially significant for emotional regulation processes for sons, as compared to daughters.
When fathers play an active role in the lives of their children, they generally behave differently with their sons, and they tend to spend more time with sons than daughters Lamb, Fathers also report being closer to their sons than their daughters Starrels, Daily Stressors and Emotional Experiences In the current study, we examined the relationships between mother- and father-child relationship quality during childhood in relation to daily emotional experiences during adulthood.
Until now, researchers have linked these childhood relationships to one-time assessments of emotion-related outcomes in adulthood. No study has examined how these early childhood relationships are related to stressor exposure or emotional reactivity to daily stressors. Daily stressors are the routine challenges of day-to-day living, such as interpersonal arguments, work deadlines and traffic jams.
At the daily level, emotional reactivity refers to the change in daily distress that ensues after a person experiences a stressful event. Researchers posit that receiving poor parenting in childhood may serve as a vulnerability factor - resulting in poorer emotion regulation skills, which in turn leads to worse emotional outcomes e. In the present study we assessed whether retrospective reports of low quality mother-child and father-child relationship quality are related to higher levels of stressors exposure and greater stressor reactivity.
Neuroticism A concern with using self-reported information is possible response bias. Researchers suggest that neuroticism captures a negative response bias whereby people report higher levels of negative emotions and more somatic complaints e.
To alleviate this concern, researchers often include neuroticism in their statistical models to control for potential negative response biases driving their results e. In the present study, a negative response bias would lead to more negative childhood memories, a greater reported number of daily stressors, and higher levels of psychological distress.
Thus, we include neuroticism in our models with the attempt to reduce the risk that the relationship between retrospective reports of mother- and father-child relationship quality and daily emotional experiences during adulthood is a function of distorted or biased reporting.
The Present Study The current study examined how retrospective accounts of mother- and father-child relationship quality during childhood are related to daily emotional experiences e.
We hypothesized that more positive retrospective ratings of early mother- and father-child relationship quality are related to lower levels of daily psychological distress. In addition, we hypothesized that more positive ratings of early relationship quality are related to experiencing fewer daily stressors in adulthood.
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Finally, we predicted that more positive retrospective ratings of early relationship quality with mother and father are related to decreased emotional reactivity to daily stressors. We further predicted that this relationship will be stronger for fathers and sons. In addition to the above hypotheses, we also questioned whether our findings would vary by age group. In all analyses, we controlled for several covariates.
In addition to neuroticism, we also controlled for socioeconomic status SES. Low SES in childhood has been associated with poorer parental quality, poorer health in adulthood and low SES in adulthood. Additionally, given our wide age range, we control for the possibility that individuals whose parents have died have different memories than those whose parents are alive; thus we thus also control for survival status of the parent i. Respondents completed short telephone interviews about their daily experiences in the past 24 hours on eight consecutive evenings.
They completed an average of seven of the eight interviews, resulting in a total of daily interviews. The initiation of interview flights was staggered across the day of the week to control for the possibly confounding between day of study and day of week. Approximately half of the NSDE sample were female Most reported being married This exclusion criterion was selected to examine the unique contribution of each parent for all people where information from both parents was available.
Measures Mother-child and father-child relationship quality In the MIDUS questionnaire, respondents rated the quality of their relationships with both their mother and father during childhood.
Respondents then answered the following questions: The identical questions were then asked about their father. To provide an equivalent measurement scale across all five of these questions, responses to the first question were multiplied by. For additional studies using this measure, see Davey, Tucker, Fingerman, and Savla, and Rossi This measure included self-reported assessments of how much during the past 24 hours the respondent reported feeling: Responses were based on a 5-point scale from 1 none of the time to 5 all of the time.